If someone tells us anything abusive or hits us physically?
Should we keep shut? Should we reply to it?
If someone puts us off, we should not get put off. True.
What about abuse?
Monday, July 21, 2008
Does it matter what you think about me?
I am wondering whether impressions about us within other people's minds matter or do not matter..?
Does it matter how other people perceive us?
This made me think whether I should even consider someone's perception about me.
My heart says no. I must not consider what others think about me. I must consider what god thinks about me and perceives me as?
What matters is how I perceive myself, rather than how other people perceive me as?
Basically, I find it a little cumbersome to accept fearful people.
I think people who are strong can perceive fearful people effortless.
Strong people are those who have self-belief and strong faith within themselves. They have learned to accept themselves as they are.
Learning is a constant process and one learns to accept one's own self as time goes by. I thought it happens within a fraction of a second. It may be true but I still have no clue about it.
I should not get carried away by someone's belief about me or anyone else for that matter. It does not matter at all.
Do not believe what other people believe about you. Don't hold on to negative beliefs or thoughts, ideas or emotions. Don't believe in other people's spirit, thoughts, emotions or dreams.
Believe in your own self.
Time will tell so will the truth. So true.
Does it matter how other people perceive us?
This made me think whether I should even consider someone's perception about me.
My heart says no. I must not consider what others think about me. I must consider what god thinks about me and perceives me as?
What matters is how I perceive myself, rather than how other people perceive me as?
Basically, I find it a little cumbersome to accept fearful people.
I think people who are strong can perceive fearful people effortless.
Strong people are those who have self-belief and strong faith within themselves. They have learned to accept themselves as they are.
Learning is a constant process and one learns to accept one's own self as time goes by. I thought it happens within a fraction of a second. It may be true but I still have no clue about it.
I should not get carried away by someone's belief about me or anyone else for that matter. It does not matter at all.
Do not believe what other people believe about you. Don't hold on to negative beliefs or thoughts, ideas or emotions. Don't believe in other people's spirit, thoughts, emotions or dreams.
Believe in your own self.
Time will tell so will the truth. So true.
Women: Chapter # 1
# 1 Most women are fearful and find ways to get excused because they are fearful.
# 2 Most women believe that they are weak and so they can blame other people.
# 3 Most women cannot perceive people properly.
# 4 Most women feel weak though they are not weak. They take this belief within themselves and tell people "they are being victimized".
# 5 Most women mis-interpret and mis-calculate often.
# 6 Most women are often ignorant than conscious. They know quite little about life.
# 7 Most women do not believe in themselves.
# 8 Most women cannot talk openly.
# 9 Most women often find themselves lost.
# 10 Most women feel lonely.
# 11 Most women often find themselves confused and unclear.
# 12 Most women are often over-emotional, over-sensitive and sentimental.
# 13 Most women don't dare to talk to strangers.
# 14 Most women believe they are powerless.
# 15 Never go and ask a women "what is your name, Ms.?". They would interpret it as if you are hitting on them and not otherwise.
# 16 If you wish to be safe, healthy and sound, stay away from women who have the habit of "blaming" other people.
# 17 Women are not far-sighted.
# 18 Women take things very personally.
Women aren't bad. They just believe they aren't complete.
These are the lessons I learned about women today.
More chapters will follow soon. Thanks. Keep reading.
# 2 Most women believe that they are weak and so they can blame other people.
# 3 Most women cannot perceive people properly.
# 4 Most women feel weak though they are not weak. They take this belief within themselves and tell people "they are being victimized".
# 5 Most women mis-interpret and mis-calculate often.
# 6 Most women are often ignorant than conscious. They know quite little about life.
# 7 Most women do not believe in themselves.
# 8 Most women cannot talk openly.
# 9 Most women often find themselves lost.
# 10 Most women feel lonely.
# 11 Most women often find themselves confused and unclear.
# 12 Most women are often over-emotional, over-sensitive and sentimental.
# 13 Most women don't dare to talk to strangers.
# 14 Most women believe they are powerless.
# 15 Never go and ask a women "what is your name, Ms.?". They would interpret it as if you are hitting on them and not otherwise.
# 16 If you wish to be safe, healthy and sound, stay away from women who have the habit of "blaming" other people.
# 17 Women are not far-sighted.
# 18 Women take things very personally.
Women aren't bad. They just believe they aren't complete.
These are the lessons I learned about women today.
More chapters will follow soon. Thanks. Keep reading.
Monday, July 14, 2008
Some quotes
Man is not god or evil, it's his/her intentions declare godliness or evilry.
Man is not good or bad, right or wrong; their responses are.
Everyone is responsible for their own self.
Truth is Power.
Whatever happens happens for BEST.
Life is always a learning experience.
Love is the absence of Hatred.
Love is life.
Man is not good or bad, right or wrong; their responses are.
Everyone is responsible for their own self.
Truth is Power.
Whatever happens happens for BEST.
Life is always a learning experience.
Love is the absence of Hatred.
Love is life.
Sunday, July 13, 2008
My belief in LOVE
My belief in love just went away for a while but then I found out that I was enraged about being manhandled and that became my biggest despair throughout the last 5 months. I was in complete disbelief - a state of shock. I went through a turmoil. It was terrifically restrained. My life had stopped moving ahead. I was blaming everyone in and around me.
I was shocked to even believe that there was something called as true Love and unconsciously started believing that true love never existed. That wasn't true at all.
I was in deep regrets that I couldn't fight back but then and now, I've realized that's it great that I am free from the clutches of people who couldn't fightback with their own circumstances.
They just accepted "losing" as if it was meant to be that way in their lives. They never thought of fighting back circumstances to make it their way. They never unturned the secret. The secret of their lives.
They never believed in themselves. They thought, "Love was stupid and it never existed."
Honestly, my deepest regrets had literally killed me into despair. I wandered within my mind from one thought to another. Regrets are something that kill minds. so, don't regret. Just let it go.
Honestly, my belief in LOVE broke off for a while and I got depressed because of it. But now I'm awake and raring to go, I'm still feeling confused/ridiculous over and about LOVE? though not so much.. I just require to think properly about it.
I think LOVE is Conviction = Self-Belief. True.
Love is Faith. Faith = Self-Belief.
Love exists within us. We are foolish that we go outside of us to find LOVE. Love is truth.
There might be some regrets and guilt somewhere that is why I stopped and my life stopped. I must eliminate guilt, regret and worry from my life somehow.
My belief in other people led me to falsehood, regrets, guilt, dis-belief and pain. My belief led to divide my attention to other people whereas my attention should had been within my own self.
I am living my life like half inside and half outside. No regrets. This is soon to change.
My ego was hit and I couldn't just accept it the way it happened.
I thought if someone hits me and I just accept it would mean that I am like not strong but that is not the truth. I am strong and that is why I have learned a lesson that I have to:
The "lack of self-belief" is ego.
I believe in myself.
I was shocked to even believe that there was something called as true Love and unconsciously started believing that true love never existed. That wasn't true at all.
I was in deep regrets that I couldn't fight back but then and now, I've realized that's it great that I am free from the clutches of people who couldn't fightback with their own circumstances.
They just accepted "losing" as if it was meant to be that way in their lives. They never thought of fighting back circumstances to make it their way. They never unturned the secret. The secret of their lives.
They never believed in themselves. They thought, "Love was stupid and it never existed."
Honestly, my deepest regrets had literally killed me into despair. I wandered within my mind from one thought to another. Regrets are something that kill minds. so, don't regret. Just let it go.
Honestly, my belief in LOVE broke off for a while and I got depressed because of it. But now I'm awake and raring to go, I'm still feeling confused/ridiculous over and about LOVE? though not so much.. I just require to think properly about it.
I think LOVE is Conviction = Self-Belief. True.
Love is Faith. Faith = Self-Belief.
Love exists within us. We are foolish that we go outside of us to find LOVE. Love is truth.
There might be some regrets and guilt somewhere that is why I stopped and my life stopped. I must eliminate guilt, regret and worry from my life somehow.
My belief in other people led me to falsehood, regrets, guilt, dis-belief and pain. My belief led to divide my attention to other people whereas my attention should had been within my own self.
I am living my life like half inside and half outside. No regrets. This is soon to change.
My ego was hit and I couldn't just accept it the way it happened.
I thought if someone hits me and I just accept it would mean that I am like not strong but that is not the truth. I am strong and that is why I have learned a lesson that I have to:
- Not follow other people.
- Not believe in what other people say.
- Not copy other people's thoughts and feelings.
- Not get influenced by anyone.
- Not trust other people.
The "lack of self-belief" is ego.
I believe in myself.
Friday, July 11, 2008
Miseries of life
Life brings different colors with it and we have to experience each and every color even if it is a little bit of misery that we have to undergo. Even if it's pain, you've to enjoy it and the pain will slowly steadily evolve into blissfulness. A little bit of pain in life is a sense of something is amiss within our lives and when we sense that something is amiss, we undergo an inquiry within ourselves of what "we are not doing". Often than not, it is something that "we are not doing" that lands us up on the wrong side of the ladder.
"what we are not doing" means what we are not completing.
There might be one of our desires or pending tasks which will be "incomplete" and completing them will help us overcome our miseries.
There are certain questions and concerns that we are not taking care of which leads to our miseries in our lives.
I definitely have been angry over the treatment given to me during my childhood by "friends" in my locality. We never had proper food or clothing during that period and life was full of fear. The life that we lead was one of those days' unending misery from which all of us have evolved. All of us meaning; my family. We have evolved due to the things we did during that period completed our misery and lead us to lead normal lives.
Our incompletions are signs of our pain.
I had this question: why did people treat me the way they treated me during childhood? was it because I wasn't rich? or was it because I bored them with all very emotional talk? Was it due to insignificance within me? any incompletion? What was it that made people avoid me during those days or ill-treat me & abuse me just because I was behaving weak?
Yes, true. I behaved weakly. Weakness is a behavior and so is strength. I never realized that before.
Yes. True. Weakness is nothing but "incompletion". I realized that before. My weak behavior lead people to abuse me, taunt me, ill-treat me and none-the-less pity me. Nobody came to help me. When times changed, with god's blessings; a person did come and with it came a new wave of learning and experince. The person brought a master who had learned techniques from different places alike copied everything creative from here; there; everywhere. His presentations were bold, rigourous, intense, pacifying, jubiliation and ofcourse he meant it a "celebration".
I would not say I have been with the wrong people though until now I believed I trusted the wrong people. It wasn't true at all. (Writing this in fear) And after all, people are not right or wrong. I always knew that before. True.
I chose to be with the kind of people I always wanted. It was just that they did not have it in them to realize what I really wanted for them. They did not behave the way I wanted them to behave so why to curse them? I always had this in my mind that they are "very good" people like grading them. and my folks spoke that they aren't good people; they are bad people: "my friends". And I took it forward in my mind that they are bad people and I landed into a puddle where I could sympathize with myself of what happened exactly during those days. I couldn't empathize myself that whatever happened happened for the best and I waste hell lot of time cursing other people when all I was doing is wasting my time and cursing my own self.
They were poor. I had never known this. They were weak. I had never known this. They always pretended to be strong in front of me but they were weak. They always wanted to express regrets within their lives but they never did in front of me. They pretended they knew more than me and all I was doing is accepting what they were doing "as it is". I never chose how do I want life to be.
I am a leader; to be honest a born leader with true leadership skills. I could lead them to the path I wanted myself but I never wanted to rule them as they were. I wanted them to take choices which meant to free them from misery. I wanted them to rule over themselves which never happened. As always, situations ruled over them.
Hatred ruled over me and not love over the past few weeks. It was intense and unenjoyable. I did not enjoy one bit of cursing someone for a mistake I did and never realized it. My weak behavior led me to my own miseries. Yes, there were situations but I never gripped any of those situations.
Our lives are separate because our pathways are separate; and our pathways are separate because we aspire two different "ideas" or rather "spirits". I would not call their spirit untrue or irrelevant though they do not form the base of my life. I wanted "Light" that brightens my life and they wanted material spirits which they can enjoy completely. There is nothing wrong with their thinking; it just leads to a stop or an incompletion. It's like a puddle you want to play with. After a few years, the puddle will evaporate and there wil be nothing left. So why gain sympathy of self-pity by blaming others when I can realize what went wrong and realize what I could / can do about what happened earlier.
I was in pain because I couldnt realize what went wrong.
I am Rich; not poor.
I am Strong; not weak.
I am the BEST; nothing less.
I couldn't forgive any of them because some one told me that there are things that cannot be forgiven. I would there is nothing in the world that cannot forgiven or rather completed. It doesn't matter whether that person betrayed you or made your worse than ever. We have to enlighten ourselves as our desitinies are in our hands.
When I wanted support from one of my closes't friends, she told me that they haven't asked for forgiveness so how can you forgive them. Well, that is as well not true.
Forgiveness in itself is completeness, a completion that would free you from negative karmas; lead you to accept your own self and other as they are "symbols o nature"; lead you to moksh; acquire power in your hands and make you feel really blissful. I never hated anyone except people who betrayed me or ill-treated me. I never liked people who betrayed me or ill-treated me. I kept away from such people but now I think the other way round. People who are direct on your face are the people you must be with and keep a distance as well. Not to take their view points or dis-approvals personally.
You have to have REAL people around you to see the far sights beyond our reach. People who can definitely see things that are beyond our vision. People who have realized what it means to be where you want to be.
When they hit me physically, they hit me my EGO; my alter ego; my self-esteem; my self-respect. when they fooled they hit me even harder.
I had two choices i.e. to seek revenge or to seek bliss. I chose the latter.
I learned a lesson; a scar that deepened my wounds and humiliated me in front of everybody. I was broken, shattered into pieces blown here and there. My mind withered here and there and my life was under shambles. I was under terrible strain, pain. I withered here and there "trying" to seek answers within my own self. I was anxious to receive answers to what had happened. I wanted to learn from my mistakes. I wanted to ignore the drama that unfolded thereafter. I wanted to realize what "I did not do" that made me a misery within my own self. I never wanted to feel weak in front of other people.
I wanted support because I felt weak. Someone had just told me that it is okay to take support. But now I disagree; we do not need support; not at all.
We always think we are good people but that is not true. There is nothing good or bad about us. We are the way we are. Completely neutral. Neutral means non-judgmental.
They wanted to make me feel I am miserable. That wasn't true. I always felt I am miserable and that wasn't true. I chose to feel the way I feel. If they thought I was miserable, they were miserable as well. I was just undergoing my realization.
I never let go off my past and here I am stuck in this vicious cycle that never ends the pain. I chose to keep the hurts and sentiments rather than evolve from them; let go off those emotions; regrets.
I always kept babbling like a mad person. I spoke all my realizations and here I am notoriously finding my way up.
I know I will definitely find my way up.
"what we are not doing" means what we are not completing.
There might be one of our desires or pending tasks which will be "incomplete" and completing them will help us overcome our miseries.
There are certain questions and concerns that we are not taking care of which leads to our miseries in our lives.
I definitely have been angry over the treatment given to me during my childhood by "friends" in my locality. We never had proper food or clothing during that period and life was full of fear. The life that we lead was one of those days' unending misery from which all of us have evolved. All of us meaning; my family. We have evolved due to the things we did during that period completed our misery and lead us to lead normal lives.
Our incompletions are signs of our pain.
I had this question: why did people treat me the way they treated me during childhood? was it because I wasn't rich? or was it because I bored them with all very emotional talk? Was it due to insignificance within me? any incompletion? What was it that made people avoid me during those days or ill-treat me & abuse me just because I was behaving weak?
Yes, true. I behaved weakly. Weakness is a behavior and so is strength. I never realized that before.
Yes. True. Weakness is nothing but "incompletion". I realized that before. My weak behavior lead people to abuse me, taunt me, ill-treat me and none-the-less pity me. Nobody came to help me. When times changed, with god's blessings; a person did come and with it came a new wave of learning and experince. The person brought a master who had learned techniques from different places alike copied everything creative from here; there; everywhere. His presentations were bold, rigourous, intense, pacifying, jubiliation and ofcourse he meant it a "celebration".
I would not say I have been with the wrong people though until now I believed I trusted the wrong people. It wasn't true at all. (Writing this in fear) And after all, people are not right or wrong. I always knew that before. True.
I chose to be with the kind of people I always wanted. It was just that they did not have it in them to realize what I really wanted for them. They did not behave the way I wanted them to behave so why to curse them? I always had this in my mind that they are "very good" people like grading them. and my folks spoke that they aren't good people; they are bad people: "my friends". And I took it forward in my mind that they are bad people and I landed into a puddle where I could sympathize with myself of what happened exactly during those days. I couldn't empathize myself that whatever happened happened for the best and I waste hell lot of time cursing other people when all I was doing is wasting my time and cursing my own self.
They were poor. I had never known this. They were weak. I had never known this. They always pretended to be strong in front of me but they were weak. They always wanted to express regrets within their lives but they never did in front of me. They pretended they knew more than me and all I was doing is accepting what they were doing "as it is". I never chose how do I want life to be.
I am a leader; to be honest a born leader with true leadership skills. I could lead them to the path I wanted myself but I never wanted to rule them as they were. I wanted them to take choices which meant to free them from misery. I wanted them to rule over themselves which never happened. As always, situations ruled over them.
Hatred ruled over me and not love over the past few weeks. It was intense and unenjoyable. I did not enjoy one bit of cursing someone for a mistake I did and never realized it. My weak behavior led me to my own miseries. Yes, there were situations but I never gripped any of those situations.
Our lives are separate because our pathways are separate; and our pathways are separate because we aspire two different "ideas" or rather "spirits". I would not call their spirit untrue or irrelevant though they do not form the base of my life. I wanted "Light" that brightens my life and they wanted material spirits which they can enjoy completely. There is nothing wrong with their thinking; it just leads to a stop or an incompletion. It's like a puddle you want to play with. After a few years, the puddle will evaporate and there wil be nothing left. So why gain sympathy of self-pity by blaming others when I can realize what went wrong and realize what I could / can do about what happened earlier.
I was in pain because I couldnt realize what went wrong.
I am Rich; not poor.
I am Strong; not weak.
I am the BEST; nothing less.
I couldn't forgive any of them because some one told me that there are things that cannot be forgiven. I would there is nothing in the world that cannot forgiven or rather completed. It doesn't matter whether that person betrayed you or made your worse than ever. We have to enlighten ourselves as our desitinies are in our hands.
When I wanted support from one of my closes't friends, she told me that they haven't asked for forgiveness so how can you forgive them. Well, that is as well not true.
Forgiveness in itself is completeness, a completion that would free you from negative karmas; lead you to accept your own self and other as they are "symbols o nature"; lead you to moksh; acquire power in your hands and make you feel really blissful. I never hated anyone except people who betrayed me or ill-treated me. I never liked people who betrayed me or ill-treated me. I kept away from such people but now I think the other way round. People who are direct on your face are the people you must be with and keep a distance as well. Not to take their view points or dis-approvals personally.
You have to have REAL people around you to see the far sights beyond our reach. People who can definitely see things that are beyond our vision. People who have realized what it means to be where you want to be.
When they hit me physically, they hit me my EGO; my alter ego; my self-esteem; my self-respect. when they fooled they hit me even harder.
I had two choices i.e. to seek revenge or to seek bliss. I chose the latter.
I learned a lesson; a scar that deepened my wounds and humiliated me in front of everybody. I was broken, shattered into pieces blown here and there. My mind withered here and there and my life was under shambles. I was under terrible strain, pain. I withered here and there "trying" to seek answers within my own self. I was anxious to receive answers to what had happened. I wanted to learn from my mistakes. I wanted to ignore the drama that unfolded thereafter. I wanted to realize what "I did not do" that made me a misery within my own self. I never wanted to feel weak in front of other people.
I wanted support because I felt weak. Someone had just told me that it is okay to take support. But now I disagree; we do not need support; not at all.
We always think we are good people but that is not true. There is nothing good or bad about us. We are the way we are. Completely neutral. Neutral means non-judgmental.
They wanted to make me feel I am miserable. That wasn't true. I always felt I am miserable and that wasn't true. I chose to feel the way I feel. If they thought I was miserable, they were miserable as well. I was just undergoing my realization.
I never let go off my past and here I am stuck in this vicious cycle that never ends the pain. I chose to keep the hurts and sentiments rather than evolve from them; let go off those emotions; regrets.
I always kept babbling like a mad person. I spoke all my realizations and here I am notoriously finding my way up.
I know I will definitely find my way up.
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